Guilty Until Proven Innocent

I wasn’t sure if I was going to comment on this, but I feel like I need to say something, because I have been through something similar.  It sucks that we live in a world where we are quick to judge people on their crimes.  You can be the greatest person, make one mistake, and everyone is ready to air your dirty laundry.  And what if the mistake was fabricated?  Welp, the damage has been done.  So here’s the thing… Two weeks ago a friend of mine in the voice acting industry was accused of rape.When I first read this, I was in total shock.  I wasn’t sure what to think.  When I gathered my thoughts, I was like, “Are you sure?”  And I know, that’s something you don’t say to a rape victim.  I’ve watched enough Law & Order: SVU for that.  I also watched enough to follow the trail and see where it goes.  A part of me wants to say that this is a false accusation, only because of how it played out.  But I do understand that even if one thinks that it’s false, the crime did happen, but all the information may not be out there.

So upon reading this Facebook post, that was tagged as a Life Event, she explained that it happened at Anime Boston last year.  She went to the police and filed a report.  She also said that if anyone asked, they can see a copy of the record.  I did indeed ask for a copy of the report, I never got anything.  As this information spread across Facebook, another associate of mine, said that two anonymous sources came forward to corroborate that this indeed did happen.

So here are my questions… Was there a rape kit done?  Why did you wait about a year before saying anything?  Why did you not press charges?  Who are these anonymous sources that can confirm this?  Can they step forward to corroborate this?

But, before you all brand me an asshole for that last paragraph, lemme tell y’all a story…

About 15 years ago, I met a girl at a restaurant.  We chatted, mingled, ate, drank.  I wanted to know her better, but she left, oh well.  Later that night, I overheard three guys talking about this girl.  I waited until they left and followed.  It was the same girl I met earlier that night.  I was able to get her number and skedaddle.  I called her the next morning to see how she was.  We talked for about six months until I was able to convince her to go to the police and file a report.  Unfortunately, the case went nowhere.  But she was thankful that she did file a report and do something about it.

Now let’s skip ahead about ten years.  I was in an on and off again relationship with someone.  Everyone in our circles knew that she wasn’t all there, mental, and lied about everything.  Just about anything she said was a lie, the truth was usually discovered in a couple of weeks.  So she came to visit for a con and we hooked up.  No big deal, right?  Right… So after a few weeks, I noticed that a lot of our friends stopped talking to me.  It seems that she told people that I raped her.  Despite everything she has said was a lie, this one time, everyone believed her.  Thankfully a friend of mine, revealed to me the truth, and I was able to get her to recant and tell the truth.  But it didn’t matter, the damage was done, some people still think I did it.  I still talk to her on occasion, but it’s nothing big.

But yeah, I do understand that it takes a lot of courage to step forward and say that you were sexually assaulted.  But when you do this, people will want to know more details.  Some will say that you’re out to ruin someone’s life.  I just want you all that are reading this to see this from different views, and understand before you pass judgement.  to be honest, I will stay by my friend’s side on this.  Even if he did do this, there isn’t enough information provided to back up the claim.

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